It is true that the only thing that is constant in life is change, but when the change becomes an unexpected mishap, it makes life hard to live with because every day you would have to deal with that change. However, we must accept the fact that life has its ways of dealing with things with us, as we all have different weights to bear, and it is a matter of how we seal the deal with life.
Just like what happened to a girl who was at the peak of her career when suddenly everything she sees faded away. All her plans and aspirations in life were blown away in just a snap of a finger when she met an accident that blinded her left eye. Who would have thought that a night of celebration would have turned into a traumatic event for her when the only thing she was prepared for that night was making the most out of her last year in college? Then the tragedy happened, and everything in her life became dull since the night she lost her eyesight.
Her mom could still remember the silence that broke her heart upon seeing her daughter lying on the hospital bed, wounded and in pain. Her father could not even get inside the room to see her daughter; the siblings as well were left speechless. Everyone in the family was in great disbelief about what happened to her. But the whole family remained strong for her. When she woke up her mom held her hands and told her how thankful they are because she was still alive, instead of asking who was to be blamed for the accident, her family focused on how she can get through with the tragedy.
From One Misery To Another
After few days in the hospital came the most catastrophic aftermath of the incident, and that was the day when she found out that her left eye could no longer see, again it was another unexpected turnout that made her regretful. Fear got to her as she remembered all her plans after graduation, she felt like everything that she worked hard for disappeared overnight. It was hard for her to accept the reality that she will no longer be the same person as before. She started to isolate herself because she does not want others to see her and feel sorry that she would no longer be able to continue her plans. Everything became unbearable for her. It was like suffering from a pang of sadness that sees no end. It was frustrating for her to see life with half sight as if there was always a dark wall that blocks her way to see better days. Her condition has alarmed her family, as they could no longer see her usual jolly self.
Barry W. Rovner, MD, and others find that “[s]elf-reported visual function loss, rather than loss of visual acuity, is significantly associated with depression. Health professionals should be aware of the risk of depression among persons reporting visual function loss,” and they were right.
Rising From The Ashes
Seeing their daughter getting drowned in misery every single day was even more painful for the parents. If only they could take all the sadness away in an instant and allow their daughter to live the life she wants it to be. The parents did whatever they could just to help their daughter continue her life regardless of what happened. They did not give up on her even if she has already lost hope and faith in life. Her parents took her to a therapist that will help her bounce back and let the painful experience motivates her to live better than cultivating the remorse within her. Fortunately, the counseling therapy that she had has helped her accept the adversities of life, and make use of the second life given to her in recovering from major depression.
“One of the themes that comes up quite often is fear of losing their independence. Fear of losing function. Often, of course, the fear of loss of function leads to the fear of loss of independence, because people think that if they cannot do something they have always done that they may need to rely on other people to do it,” says Dr. Deirdre Johnston, MD, a geriatric psychiatrist at Johns Hopkins University.
After the long journey, she woke up and realized that the heaviness in her heart has already disappeared that for the first time after three long months, she finally saw herself the smile she usually gives to everyone she meets. The counseling has helped her tremendously to accept her mishap and used it for a better version of her.
Certainly, the way our society view vision impairment should be revisited. Just as Dr. Catherine Kudlick, PhD says, “Most people think of disability as a biological, physiological thing that happens to someone, something ahistorical, rather than an identity shaped by history, politics, economics, society, and culture.”
True enough, no one can dictate how we should feel about life, but the mere presence of our family makes it easy for us to recover ourselves from misery. The girl realized that her blind left eye was not a hindrance in her life; instead, a reminder to always see the goodness in everything. That way it would be easy for us to survive any adversities of life and celebrate every triumph of it.